Fake control in sexual relationships involves psychological manipulation tactics that create an illusion of dominance without genuine consent or equality, often escalating to coercion or abuse. Perpetrators use gaslighting, guilt-tripping, or emotional blackmail to erode boundaries, making partners doubt their autonomy and comply out of fear or confusion.[domesticshelters +1]

Common Tactics

• Guilt and Pressure: Phrases like “If you loved me, you’d do this” or persistent nagging wear down resistance, framing refusal as rejection.

• Exploitation of Vulnerabilities: Playing on insecurities (“No one else would want you”) or using alcohol/drugs to lower inhibitions mimics consent.

• DARVO Reversal: Deny intent, attack the partner’s credibility (“You’re overreacting”), then reverse roles to position themselves as victims.