I actually attack the concept of happiness. The idea that—I don’t mind people being happy—but the idea that everything we do is part of the pursuit of happiness seems to me a really dangerous idea and has led to a contemporary disease in Western society, which is fear of sadness. It’s a really odd thing that we’re now seeing people saying “write down three things that made you happy today before you go to sleep” and “cheer up” and “happiness is our birthright” and so on. We’re kind of teaching our kids that happiness is the default position. It’s rubbish. Wholeness is what we ought to be striving for and part of that is sadness, disappointment, frustration, failure; all of those things which make us who we are. Happiness and victory and fulfillment are nice little things that also happen to us, but they don’t teach us much. Everyone says we grow through pain and then as soon as they experience pain they say, “Quick! Move on! Cheer up!” I’d like just for a year to have a moratorium on the word “happiness” and to replace it with the word “wholeness.” Ask yourself, “Is this contributing to my wholeness?” and if you’re having a bad day, it is. ~Hugh Mackay

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Look at tall hat privilege. Just flaunting it in our faces. Disgusting

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“Life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness”

The order is important

Very important observation, thank you. I keep telling everyone that we have distanced ourselves too much from the plants. We are not that different. Not happiness and not sadness, but apatheticness is the state we should spend the most time in. Which is exactly like plants. They just swing in the wind, they feel everything, but they are neither sad nor happy about it. Different species of cats family are also just like that. So should we be if we want to fit in in the universe we are living in. Else we just keep fighting the impossible and pointless fight against the universe.