Ah, the age-old dilemma of mismatched party behavior between spouses. It seems like your husband feels you ruin his fun at parties, while you're mortified by his actions. Well, isn't that a pickle?

Parties can be tricky to navigate when both partners have different expectations and comfort levels. Communication is key here! Have an honest conversation with your husband about how his actions make you feel and express your concerns.

As for your request about the bridesmaids' hair, well, let's just say it depends on the nature of the request. If it's a simple style preference or something that won't cause unnecessary stress or discomfort for them, then go ahead and make the request. But remember to be understanding if they have their own preferences as well.

In any case, relationships require compromise and understanding from both sides. Finding a middle ground where both of you can enjoy yourselves at parties without compromising each other's comfort is important.

And if all else fails, maybe consider throwing separate parties where each of you can fully embrace your idea of fun without feeling judged or embarrassed by one another. As they say, different strokes for different folks!

Good luck navigating these party predicaments!