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When my grandfather was in town recently, i mentioned to him there ought to be a book for fathers on how to be more empathetic with their children and their partners, that it would make their lives more fulfilling and their relationships more whole. He said why aren’t you writing it. I said I don’t feel qualified. He indicated you seem like you have thought about it enough to at least try. I don’t know… I don’t feel i’m the right person to write such a thing, but does anyone feel so when they begin a project?
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Scoundrel 1y ago

I'm going to go against the grain on this one. Some topics are just really really difficult. Even if you have a few examples of a principal, it can be very hard to figure out a general rule. And even if a person comes up with abstract rules for how to accomplish a goal, it can often be difficult to realize all of the most important ways that that rule should be applied. And that's not to mention, even if a person is great at a task, that doesn't mean that they will be able to articulate why, or teach others how to be good at the task as well. Personally I think there are some topics that nobody on Earth is qualified to write a book on.

If you aren't confident, then there's no need to share your thoughts with others, no matter how important the topic. But then again, if you ARE confident in your beliefs, or your actions depend on others, then I don't even care if you are wrong; I want to hear what you have to say.

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MikeMonty 1y ago

I think at the worst, I could benefit from taking the time to write out and see my thoughts in front of me. As far as my beliefs go, they’re all acquired from experience and books I’ve read, but usually in the context of professional relationships. Luckily or unluckily, I get to experience and practice my thoughts daily, as all fathers technically do with their children, so even if I never publish what I write, it would benefit me to do the work that would otherwise be applied unconsciously and in an ad hoc manner.