Eh better to know what you want sooner when it comes to babies. It doesn’t have to happen right away. If you know what you want it gives you the time to find the right partner and make your life more conducive to bringing a baby into your life.
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oh that is most definitely true
all i do these days is just trying to act more in a way that i’d want to be like as a dad, and what i’d want for my kid 💜
This.
Finding a partner that I loved AND had the same child revolving perspectives and values as I did was the key. Well put.
I knew early that I didn’t want children, because I had other plans for my life. I’ve had occasional pangs of regret, but mostly I’m at peace with it. It became easier when my brother and his wife had a daughter, and then a second. I imagined I could contribute some wisdom to them, once they were speaking coherent sentences. Then last year my brother, whom I had always been close to, abruptly stopped speaking to me and cut me out of his life. Now those pangs of regret are a little deeper. Ugh.