What client are you using?
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I have no ideas all I know is I’ve got seven relays thus far and I don’t know how I got them in the first place. I tried relaying randomly then deleted Bc it was a red dot and nothing else.
When you go into settings to add a relay make sure it’s in the proper format “wss://nostrplebs.com” for example. Also, some relays are paid, meaning you have to go to the website and pay sats to be granted read and write access. Here is a list of every single relay. Feel free to take a peak at mine as well, they work well but most of mine are paid. https://nostr.watch/relays/find