to treat others as they want to be treated
as best as you can discern they do
relative to the words they plainly spoke to you
with eye contact in person while conversing with you where you asked for clarification if you were confused is the whole of the law of good relating
as in: crystal clearly
if someone can't even look you in the face while saying something to you?
it probably is not meant for you
they are probably speaking to themselves
as in: consider it sus
a comfortable alive being?
who feels safe & is sharing easily
has no problem with the intimacy
of looking at you when speaking with you
those are the words you can trust the very most
as such?
please never demand someone look at you if they do not feel comfortable naturally doing so
let them be
& likewise? if you feel like looking away?
do so you never have to challenge your own guts on that
what makes you feel unsafe or like turning away? is so ok
giving grace, giving mercy, giving kindness, having patience
no cornering, no forcing, no intimidating, no frightening shitless
if someone is walking away from you? let them go
if when hugging someone they start to pull back? let them go immediately whether they are a small child, a teenager, or an adult