That's a though point! But if you already noticed it, you are on a good path.

First we have to find out and admit there is a problem, and we have to actively want to change on it.

Maybe if you already know what is the new mindset you shall go by, you can practice it in an environment where they don't know you. Usually if we want to change in an environment where they know us, they will pull us back to our old self because that is what they know, and learned to handle. And change is hard for everyone.