Thank you for the compliments and criticism
(1) I do not claim that phoenix lets you have channels with peers other than Acinq, but I do claim that it's possible to route payments to other people without Acinq being able to detect it. I've demonstrated the feasibility and profit-potential of doing so in this video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oWBX68_2TQo
Since any user can do this without detection by Acinq, Acinq has to add a caveat to all of their assumptions about the sender of a payment: "This user is the sender, unless he is forwarding someone else's payment." <-- that means they do not know the sender
Regarding the destination, Acinq does not know that either, thanks to the existence of rendezvous routing, as demonstrated by lnproxy (for bolt11) and CLN (for bolt12). They can look up info about the pubkey in a bolt11, but since that pubkey might belong to someone other than the destination, they have to add a caveat to all of their assumptions about the destination of a payment: "This pubkey belongs to the destination, unless it is a rendezvous node." <-- that means they do not know the destination
They do know the amount sent (since they only allow one channel), though, and that is one area where you admittedly have a privacy degradation by using phoenix.
(2) "That's objectively worse ux" <-- yes, on that one aspect of UX. But there are many aspects to UX and just because monero wins on one of them does not mean it wins on all of them, or even most of them. Had my opponent thought to bring this point up, I would concede that monero has better UX than lightning in this one respect, but I would not have conceded that it has better UX than lightning "in general," for the reasons I gave in the debate.