what client?

i use eden.nostr.land and nostr.wine and my own relay which is a wip...

i had been loyal to our dear hodlbod and trying to use coracle but it gossips too much and nostrudel lets me set up test profiles that i can really see the relay working fully, apart from it's clunky DM decrypt button

it's better to have a few relays, i rarely have more than 6, nostr.band is good also

the people who hype gossip model are good in the sense that they are helping ensure this protocol is permeable but for development purposes we need relay model

nostrudel devs seem to pretty much get this