Scroll down this guide to part about “relays”. https://bit.ly/41gaBdE

One of the most popular relays is: nostr.wine

Nostr wine, Also has monthly fee “relay filter” (filter separate fee from relay).

#[2]​ is owner that relay, very helpful kind fren

#[3]​ is really amazing & knowledgeable about relays… I’m not the best, so I’ll direct you to dear fren fishcake