Thanks - the following pattern did work on nak:

./nak --author [pubkey] --auth [pubkey] --sec [privkey] wss://nostr.wine

I also tried on vnak and, when I click "send request", it actually freezes on the screen below. I'll try with other relays once I'm on them. Already very helpful to be able to do it with nak.

I'll also be trying to install pyramid tomorrow.