i was actually talking about my mother in this case.
for years she denied my accusations that her husband ( my father ) is a sadist ... she doesn't really deny it anymore but doesn't think it changes anything either.
one time she said that the reason she always denied that he is a sadist is because it was so obvious that he is a sadist that there was no need to talk about it.
i explain to her that he has never lived for anything except to hurt people and animals - primarily his own children - and she's like " but he pays for my vacations ! "
you can't help women and they don't want your help. in fact they despise you for trying.
women aren't human. they are a type of suckerfish: