Hmm, sure but watching gets one only so far, y’know? and if it’s real, I kinda want to leave folks alone to enjoy themselves, and if it’s not real, then what’s the point? I mean, fantasy and imagination are great, but that’s the problem, fantasy and imagination are better than fake intimacy, and real intimacy is just that, intimate. So I don’t really want to *watch* it. Gender notwithstanding.