some people don't even realize how pervasive their distorted language is. there are those who subtly fold in the layers and some just completely disregard reality in favor of deep labels and corrupted plot lines. on purpose.

i had an email correspondant once who did this with random stories and obscure "family members" i would get tagged with, maligned freely against. never changed, even after 2 decades of silence. the only way you know is to invest the time to learn -

our parents do this too. especially when they're cornered -