And a person should not have to A : go through pain and trauma to love someone or to Know what love is in its reception. And B: you should not have to treat someone else in ill manners to realize that it is harmful, and it should not be a struggle to share good feelings with others you love and respect.. those painful feelings are ours and we should embrace those who are willing to share our pain. Without them we cannot vent or cry. Our voices would be heard by No One . They help us go a little further. So if you can. Try not to lash out in anger or inflict pain on others especially when you truly need help and support.