Thanks for the info! Well I have Cake wallet now. You are at least that good at onboarding.
Cake Wallet is one of the best XMR wallets. I think there was a Nostr bridge that lets people zap with XMR, too, but I'm not sure what the progress is.
There is a now archived, full node on a phone: https://github.com/CryptoGrampy/xmr-pocket-node
Back when I tried it, wallets couldn't use localhost or 127.0.0.1. It may work with Cake Wallet now, but everyone would advise against it.
There is a relay that accepts XMR: https://github.com/pluja/nerostr
It only needs docker, so I may try setting one up 🤔
Im not a good on-boarder...
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