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I liked that. It can be a dangerous one for those who are naturally self reflective and emotionally responsible, but ultimately who is incapable of facing their shadows will never face anyone else's.

In the artist aspect of it I actually have seen all angles. One of my closest friends is like the video says, but my dad was an artist, and he passed away never admitting his wrongdoings (which were far beyond stealing a sweet in a shop). I loved him, don't get me wrong, but he could rewrite the narrative in his mind so completely that he was always the victim - and he believed that story above all else. We never heard an apology, an acknowledgement, or any real accountability. For 40 years he cheated, neglected, reacted, yet in his eyes, he was always the one wronged.

I know for certain that at some point he really was a victim; his trauma built powerful coping mechanisms. But those same mechanisms meant others paid the price for his inability to confront himself. He cared in his own way though - he would help with any project big or small, buy gifts for everyone whenever he had some money, teach others what he knew… but then wouldn’t come see his own children because he β€œhad to water the marijuana plants.” 🌝

I can only imagine his internal battles, but truth is it's impossible to live with someone whose mind is trapped in such loop because if they are unable to understand that they can, indeed, be harmful to others through their actions (or lack thereof) and behaviours, they will never ever put in the work to face their own shadow.

But now to what matters most... HAVE A GREAT FRIDAY! πŸ€πŸ₯³

Such a beautiful insight Jules, thanks for sharing !

My father would not visit kids because my mother was responsible for situation ( divorce).

Life is amazing, hence the one he would fight more and keep distance because I was the only one who would call up on his "excuses" is actually the one that brought him home and taking care of him....

I can see in his eyes what he is incapable of saying out loud.

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