currently most relays just give you everything if you send a filter with only kind 4, 1059, 1060 and many clients add tags when you mention other users that are visible in the clear (wtf?) this is why nostr:npub1m4ny6hjqzepn4rxknuq94c2gpqzr29ufkkw7ttcxyak7v43n6vvsajc2jl is getting people seeing messages that appear to be from her when they have actually just got her npub tagged!