Good question. If you want to stay in Ukraine for example to support your people because you think you can reduce the suffering by contributing to somenting positive and receive positive feelings then you don't throw away your life despite the harshness (per aspera ad astra). If you stay in Ukraine for example to contribute to hatred against the wrong people then you are just an exploitable investment for the western expansionists and in that case you are throwing away your life for sure. I remind you that the general secretary of NATO, Stoltenberg, said that in 2021 putin was looking for peace, not killing Ukrainians because they are Ukrainians and to take more lands. According to Stoltenberg it was NATO that rejected peace... If you didn't saw the video i linked before see it now, i think he says those things around 18:19