This is exactly how marriage works.

Two of you must remain a work in progress, each looking out for the other.

To truly become one, both parties must be ready to clip off some excesses, fill up some gaps and make amends as much as possible.

It's an error to think that marriage is a ready to eat meal for you, no no, it's an empty pot, you both get the ingredients and start preparing your meal.

What you prepare is what you eat.

Meaning there is no existing sweetness in marriage, you both create it.

Don't get married because you are seeking happiness, marriage won't give you happiness if you ain't happy on your own.

Marriage won't give you peace if you don't have peace in you.

Marriage won't give you joy if you don't have joy in peace.

What you come into the marriage with, is what you will get.

Oh how sweet, when couples look out for each other, when they both allow themselves to work on each other.