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False dichotomy. We can both be right.

Keep in mind that I am not talking about you, and I did say "most." I am not denying there is real trauma (such as when a woman is raped). I am also sorry you have emotional pain, but I work with thousands of kids every day who think trauma is being held accountable when they get a zero on a test because they skipped school, or that because someone was mean to them in the cafeteria they've experienced trauma. What it actually means that something in society is broken.

This mindset carries over into the adult world where people believe that not getting what they want is trauma. I wanted a supportive father. Mine was not that. I have not, therefore, experienced trauma. I can, in spite of whatever it is I think I deserve but didn't get, build good things for others.

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wildcatfish 5mo ago

Again you're splitting. There is big T Trauma and little t trauma. They all add up and everyone is different in how they cope and adapt/maladapt. Entitled self absorbed brats are just one manifestation, so are; workaholics, alcoholics, people pleasers, drug attacks, endurance athletes, and many others. There is a neuroscience to support this, Dr. Paul Conti is a great source. Trauma is not something that should be moralized, minimized, or glorified.

William ₿ Travis 5mo ago

The problem with the word, and this is what I'm getting at, is that no one has a clear definition of what it is. As a result is can and is anything a person wants to use to justify accomplishing nothing. We know society is stocked up on weak "traumatized" people. So while we can talk about how important it is to respect "trauma," when the shit hits the fan, weak people are going undo civilization. Those who will come out the other side are those who can put their brokenness aside and build things for other people.