What men and women want has actually been studied. For example:

https://www.researchgate.net/publication/231858845_Buss_David_M_1989_Sex_Differences_in_Human_Mate_Preferences_Evolutionary_Hypotheses_Tested_in_37_Cultures_Behavioral_and_Brain_Sciences

Summary and update:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/sex-sexuality-and-romance/202210/what-men-and-women-really-want-in-potential-mate

I think the summary overemphasizes the differences between men and women, though. I recall another David Buss paper (which I don’t have on hand) that showed both men and women want loving partners most, but down the list there were some differences in priorities.