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Random thought on a Sunday:

I once stayed at a job with toxic leadership for several years because it (mostly) paid the bills, and I (foolishly) believed things would change after I talked at length with them about the issues, most of which they agreed with me on. The reality was that the poor accountability that led to the toxic environment stemmed from the leadership itself having poor accountability over themselves. And so even though they could acknowledge that the problems existed, they had no systems or structure to actually affect lasting change in the organization. Instead of moving on to something better, I stuck it out until external life circumstances required me to make a change. I still stay in touch with friends there, and the organization is still exactly just as dysfunctional and toxic.

Moral of the story:

Don’t let your mental health suffer over an undue sense of “loyalty” to a job. It’s ok to try and “be the change you want to see” but once you see that the problem is bigger than your ability to change, AND those who can change it won’t do so, do yourself a favor and leave. I guarantee you’ll find another way to pay the bills.

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CitizenPleb 2y ago

Absolutely. Life is too short to work for assholes if you have a say in it.

corndalorian 2y ago

💯🙌 There’s a great book on the subject, aptly named “The No Asshole Rule” 😂

CitizenPleb 2y ago

Love this!

Erik 2y ago

🫂🫂🫂

Cindy 2y ago

Amen. I’m in this situation currently. I’m constantly applying for other positions, just haven’t found one yet.

corndalorian 2y ago

Hope you find something soon 💜🫂

🇩𝔢𝔠𝔢𝔫𝔱 🇼𝔦𝔰𝔡𝔬𝔪 2y ago

That leap to the unknown is hard. Congrats on finding a way!

Aaron 2y ago

Been there myself and agree with your sentiment.

Enki 2y ago

I wholeheartedly agree that's why I quit my last job.

Ruminant Llama 2y ago

Important lesson to share.

My colleague left exactly because of these issues.

He later explained, that there was no alignment left between his job and the things he cared for.

It almost burned him out.

I'm grateful, he was so open about his #mentalhealth and shared his perspective before leaving #respect

Steven Day 2y ago

Absolutely.

And I would also add to those who are afraid to make a chance. If anyone has ever been laid off, that you can find something else without the forcing function of no longer being viable to the business.

You might like the colleagues you work with and you have to look at it as a business decision for yourself…nothing personal to particular company or people (sometimes it can be).

It will be better to try to leave on your own terms and try to line something up too.

kris 2y ago

A good reminder. Thank you. I’ve been in this space for 9 months. It needs to change. It’s tough working for a large entity for a long portion of your career and then realizing you need to walk away. At leas in my head currently, it is. 🤪

@IsabelSydow Queen of Shrimps (but u can call me Dan.) 2y ago

I have been struggling for such a long time. I resigned my job of 12 years because of very similar circumstances as yours. I felt "blessed" to have found where I work now when I did, as it had the appearance of a much better culture. It, unfortunately, is the worst employer I have ever worked for (& I've been around!). My coworkers & direct management are actually some of the most decent human beings trapped in the need for the job to pay the bills. But those making the rules on how to perform every single little decision you musty make are... better described by David Icke!

I can't quit. I am the main bringer of the bacon, the only one able to get us health insurance, & nobody wants to hire a middle aged woman with a documented disability.

Honest? My mental health has been suffering, so my physical. I fear I will one day be in the middle of a call & suddenly that's where I'll end, with my keyboard making indents on my face.

But I keep on #praying. #Life shouldn't be this way & I'm sure I'm lucky compared to many. But I must #pray. I have worked in State, County government & now I'm in #healthcare <-- read that word with quote on quote...

There is #evil in this world. I don't need to read old stories from the #bible or any religious texts of any kind to KNOW that #Satan does exist. All I have to do is open my eyes & live following the #programming of evil they have set forth for us to do.

Just as there is a #devil & #demons who do utilize those who are dead inside like gloves to steal, kill & destroy. There are #celestial beings, #Sons & #Daughters of #God & the #DivineLight.

I, for one, choose to believe that many of us (as in the real ones, made with flesh & bones...) who are here in #NOSTR and have chosen to be #Bitcoin maximalists are part of the good which must prevail in the world.

So I choose to pray, and I choose to #act by communicating to those who are willing to listen at all, or open their eyes and see.

My prayer today:

May the wisdom we part on each other help each other. Not only in retaining that wisdom, but in knowing how to use it. In knowing how to apply it for the betterment of our lives and that of all our loved ones. May we find ways to keep communicating with one another freely, & may we find ways to organize ourselves & each other as the experienced & specialized troops that we are, because every day is a battle.

Do not lull yourself into a fake sense of security & calm, for the peace always makes its appearance before the storm. Ours is the job to not only survive it, but to win the battle, bring forth the victory over the Klaus Schwabs so we can get to the PEACE after the storm.

May we find ways to pray together.

#FIATisViolence

#BitcoinIsHope

@IsabelSydow Queen of Shrimps (but u can call me Dan.) 2y ago

Jonk 2y ago

I had this same experience. I have left 3 different toxic workplaces and I have always ended up better for it.

Sometimes you have to "gut it out" for a short period, but financial well-being is a result of mental and spiritual well-being over long-term.