add wss://mleku.realy.lol to your relays list and send me DM using coracle, this is the most reliable way to get in touch privately
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also yes set that relay to inbox in coracle relay page
might be better to just use nostrudel, but add wss://mleku.realy.lol to your in and outbox lists in the settings pages
i still haven't found a reliable functionality in nostr messaging, that's partly why i'm trying to build a client and protocol that works like IRC, which works, and is private because the relay doesn't store the message, just passes it on if the other side is subscribed