Ooh that makes sense...

YES. So rare these days, sadly

Love that his surname is Paine

This.

I've always hated the saying: "wHeN GiVeN tHe ChOicE bEtWeEn bEiNg RiGhT oR bEiNg KiNd, ChOoSe KiNd."

It flies in the face of this much better saying: "It is better to know a harsh truth than to entertain a pleasing lie."

In the zoomed-out, grand scheme of things, speaking a harsh truth *IS* kindness. It's a way of showing love, since you are attempting to prevent them from hurting or destroying themselves.

If they choose to be offended, then that's their problem, not yours. And if they won't listen to you or anyone else who attempts to tell them a harsh truth, then the inevitable pain and devastation will be their teacher, instead.

And allowing them to learn through painful experience is also a way of showing them love.