looking at the core values that certified coaches follow:

1. genuinely interested in other people, what drives them, and what their beliefs are

2. finds joy in helping other people while remaining in the background, supporting and cheering on

3. convinced that most people can do more than they think and limitations are often just mental blocks

4. believes that people know what's best for them

5. never gives opinions or advice

to be honest, i know people who are very much looking for #5 and no one will ever give them any answers.

and while i generally follow #4 when i have personal conversations with people, i don't believe it's always true, because i've personally been wrong about what was best for me before, and if someone had helped me to become self-aware, maybe i would have realised.

it was starting to sound like something i was maybe interested in doing but obviously i can't do so as a certified coach, because my approach would be too active for that.

i would *want* a coach to be more active about it. i went to someone called a "job specialist" that the government hires and they were hopeless to talk to because they just sat around waiting for me to form my own opinion, and i never did.