I've been there.
For me it was coming to terms with the abuse her parents had wrought upon her and myself.
Textbook abuser and enabler. It was a dark time in my life.
That was the first time I really came face to face with true evil in the world. It contextualized some things from my past as well and prepared me for the rest of my life.
I reconciled with them in a dream. It was fascinating.