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My Dad is dying. I visited him, probably for the last time in his care home. He is 89 and has Alzheimer’s. It’s a relief, but also very sad. I shed a tear. The last time I visited him a week ago, he didn’t know who I was for the first time.

He had a great life, he built a public company, got an OBE from the queen and advised several prime ministers.

I haven’t posted this on other social platforms yet, not sure why. I think I feel freer to be myself here.

His name is Clifford Hardcastle OBE

This is him from a couple of years ago.

Aron 1y ago

My grandpa passed away long time ago.

I was a child back then, I didn't know what a neurodegenerative disease was at that time. I just notice it on him first. (He strugled with Alzheimer too)

Things evolved very gradually. I have memories from when I was 7 telling him the same thing twice and noticeing the same reaction like it was the first time he heard me telling it.

For the last half a year of he's life he recognise only 2 things: my grandma and the house (only inside and the front of. eveything else was a complete mistery) He become so slow in moving and thinking that actually one second for him was like 1 minute "on planet earth" (the famous time meme).

I remember watching him and asking deep within myself " what a life is this ? is it still "living" at this point ?" (I was 13)

It's hard to let go, Take care 🫂🫂

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mike 1y ago

He’s not been “present” for about 2 years. Before that it was very similar to your early experience.

Thank you 🙏