Older, white, educated straight male southerner executive here. Thanks for mansplaining that to me, fren! Just kidding. The shifting standards for men are confusing, if not impossible, to keep up with. Honestly, I like to be an ally and I try to privately and one to one, but when mandatory DEI meetings happen at work, I zip it. That is losing territory for someone like me.
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I often agree with objections to the way I say things and it is something I am trying to get better at. But alienating people based on their demographics is a losing strategy if equality is really the goal.