I think your theory is pretty applicable, as with any theory, absolute dichotomous application is probably a mistake. Once upon a time I literally fought physically at times against gay rights. Enculturation played a part, religion played a part, one decade later I was in a gay relationship for a time. In retrospect, my fears about my feelings likely fueled my fury against the institution of gay attraction. What a journey life is! One of my college buddies just transitioned after raising a family with his (former) her (current) wife. Amazing, never would have guessed. She’s finally happy with her body. For her, it’s not about sex, but about being genuine. #gay #transsexual
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This reply was a roller coaster 😂 thanks for sharing. Some good points made.
Without a doubt it’s more difficult to fit in if you’re gay in many cultures / societies, and I think that’s what would make it hard to actively accept for many. Their parents, friends, church, teacher, etc all make it known the gays aren’t accepted in their sphere. So the young mind as a defense suppresses the gayness until it builds up too much subconscious pressure and the transgender schism occurs. Idk. Seems plausible.
I think it is fluid and spectral. Do I feel remotely gay as an old man? No, increasingly I am forcefully heterosexual. Decades ago, my feelings were different at times. I don’t regret any of the experiences or love I felt at the time. Who are we to attempt to delegitimize the life stage a peer is in because our perspective isn’t the same in present chronology?