People like things to be clear, but they seldom are.

If you only see a situation from the moment you like to start viewing or are shown it, is easy to judge.

Trying to go beyond that point and see what could have caused things to escalate at that point, means you have to put in time, critical thinking, and probably come to an unclear situation or even a conclusion you don't like.

Most Humans are easy to manipulate, and than some, but admitting that, or being wrong, and than some, is not easy.

But everyone has to ho there before they can start changing.