I just read this:
Men want sex when they are stressed out.
Women want sex when they aren’t stressed out.
I think this is highly accurate.
Discussion
So women need to chill out and let men get jiggy with it.
Am i understanding this ? 😂
+1
Mostly..
I found the book “Come as you are” great at explaining this in terms of sexual accelerators and brakes, and every individual’s sensitivity to each.
Correlation ≠ causation
The stress men seem to be experiencing is from the build up of sexual energy. Stress isn't the only way that this energy build up manifests.
But isn’t stress from the build up of sexual energy still stress?
We experience stresses everyday. Waking up is a stressful event.
A man can transmute this sexual energy into purposeful action & drive. Ironically, this tends to make his partner pretty horny.
It's generally when the man can't find a purpose that he experiences the frustration of it. He then seeks to offload this energy & find relief from it.
Agree and women do not tend to do the same especially when it comes to sex.
Temporary stress will increase testosterone levels in men and can least to increased libido. Chronic stress actually decrease testosterone (an effect of sustained increase in cortisol production).