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Having grown up very poor, it has become obvious to me over time that the perspective poverty offers relative to my now very comfortable life has been a necessary condition for my overall happiness.

Had I grown up middle or upper class, I would have faced many of the same challenges (school, figuring out jobs, relationships, etc) but would have struggled only to regain the security that I knew as a child, not capture said security for the first time.

Poverty also means that you have to become pretty creative to still find joy in life (you can’t just buy an ersatz version), and this was truly useful for me. It was how I found nature, exercise, creativity/art, good relationships, accomplishment, efficiency, etc. All the actual sources of joy that life has to offer.

Also, since humans do far better with improving circumstances than deteriorating ones, poverty has been a distinct advantage for me over many middle class people I have known. My life has been a steady state of leveling up instead of just a slow grind or decline towards death.

I am becoming more aware that people who have only known wealth and security simply don’t know how to be happy, so they do the things society tells them will bring happiness (like having kids, believing in God, consuming garbage products and experiences, practicing brand and political tribalism, etc).

They then get trapped by the system that knows exactly what it’s doing. The kids they bring into the world keep these people distracted and obedient, as do their political and religious leanings, and the debts they incur to afford all the other garbage they bring into their lives. They are creatively barren, and most can’t even start to think for themselves, let alone begin to examine their own behavior so that they may one day escape the prisons they live in.

It’s sad to watch really, and there’s really nothing that can be done about it.

Good luck out there.

#grownostr

#thinkdangerously

Idk about that. I’ve become more locked in to what’s going on in the world for the sake of my kids. Things that I used to go along with or ignore, now I refuse to comply since I can see the slippery slope of where such tyrannical policies lead (for their sake).

I appreciate you thinking dangerously, but beware of black and white thinking. There are many shades of grey, and you can’t lump all people into certain categories

Everyone has their own path to walk in life and in finding contentment. The poor and the rich both have to overcome ingrained mentalities to find pleasure in the little things and working towards achieving worthwhile goals. Just my 2 sats

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Thank you for your reply and for thinking about what I wrote.

I am the first to admit that I don’t know anything for certain. In fact, if I ever become certain about anything, it’s usually the first sign of being wrong.

As a person with kids, I applaud your ability to even think about whether it was the right decision. With something so permanent and consequential as creating another life, one that must live in the world around us and then (in the best case scenario) become old, frail, and ultimately say goodbye to everyone and everything they love, I can see why that would be a very tough thing to do.

Thank you for listening to my feedback! I appreciate your notes even if I do feel differently about having kids.

I don’t think parenting is for everyone, but for those who feel called they should be the best they possibly can be.

I want my kids to know all of the things that it took me so long to figure out on my own whether it’s life skills or the ways of the world. Watching the process of them learning and figuring things out, and the people they are becoming brings me great joy

Have a good evening