Oh I suppose we don't have the right to speak freely to anyone without being killed. It's more accurate to say that we have the right to speak freely to people who can't escalate to phyisical violence. Just like how we are having a conversation even though neither one of us can kill eachother. That's the right I'm talking about. That's the kind of free expression I choose to participate in, and because of it, I get to have interesting conversations with people who disagree with me.
I also plan to proudly declare to my family when I find an adult of the opposite sex that I'm going to spend the rest of my life with. The fact that I want to spend lots of time with my family and lots of time with this hypothetical adult wife is why it becomes their business, because at a certain point the scheduling only works if everyone meets up together. Like a party. A mental illness on the other hand isn't the same thing. I can easily wait until I'm alone to jack off to loli porn. That's why my sexual attraction isn't any of their business.
The idea that a person's family has the right to know what they finds hot reminds me of this funny, but horrifyingly cringey post:
If you think the DSM-5's definition of pedophilia perfectly matches your own then I don't mind pulling it up. Well the actual DSM manuel costs money, but there are plenty of sources repeating what it says. I found a page that lists the following three criterion for who is a pedophile: A) An individual who has had arousing fantasies about, urges for, or behaviors with a prepubescent child or children. B) The individual has acted out these sexual desires, or is experiencing significant distress or difficulty as a result of these desires. C) The Individual is 16 years of age, and at least five years older than the child or children noted in Criterion A.
Source: https://www.theravive.com/therapedia/pedophilic-disorder-dsm--5-302.2-(f65.4)
If I have only acted on my sexual attraction while alone and under privacy then what would even change if I stopped? How exactly are people supposed to see any signs that I'm a pedophile? Are you planning to take away the privacy and alone time of every person on Earth and hope that I don't stop? Unless I actually molest a child, unless there is an actual VICTIM you could never catch me. And unless society works with the victims of sexual abuse there is no guaruntee of being able to catch a predator. And unless society treats them like people rather than like time bombs or like animals, there is no guaruntee of being able to catch a predator. Except maybe all of the retarded child molesters you are apparently content to lump me in with. Go off king, catch all those guys for me.