To be fair, evolutionary speaking "finding a good partner" is THE big deal, after not dying 😅

I think those cualities you speak in the second part of your note, were taught by religions historically wich also moderated the natural impulses you describe first.

Now people is left without that general guide for life some things spiral out of control, like an arms race that pushes us to only pursuit the best social status, or to be the most sexually atractive, etc...🧐🤔