You can learn to love.

No, I'm not writing some cheesy self-help guide for broken hearted singles. I'm writing about disciplines and skills that are hard to obtain.

In the west, we have it backwards. We think we have a passion about something and then we get good at it. For a very few people, love comes before skill. But for most people, it's the other way around. Skill comes before love. As you get better at something, you *learn* to love the skill or even your ability to execute. It feels great to be competent at something.

That's why you should be purposeful about what you're going to get skilled in. For most people, it's something useless like a video game, politics, or a sports team. Such skills are easy traps for your love.

Find something worthy instead. Look for something higher. Those things, too, can be your passion. You just have to be patient.