I hear you, man. This is really tough, and it makes sense that you’re feeling this way. But before you assume what’s best for your wife, have an open conversation with her. She chose to be with you, and that means more than just the ability to have kids biologically.

I know it’s hard to imagine a child that isn’t genetically yours, but being a father is about love, presence, and the bond you build. No matter what happens, you’re not less of a man, and you’re not alone in this. Give yourself the space to process, and don’t be afraid to lean on the people who care about you.