The way you talk about Nostr conceptually is why I've been recently saying that Nostr suffers from a form of cognitive dissonance.

What you appreciate are concepts, or NIPs. There's nothing wrong with liking certain nips, or clients, or users/devs on Nostr.

What I'm saying is relays are the problem.

Lightning isn't part of Nostr.

Nip-05 does not need relays.

Nip-07 does not need relays.

Fetching and publishing events does not need relays.

This network of relays doesn't scale and the protocol doesn't impact the architecture.