Does anyone have any advice?

Ive had a very subtly antagonistic relationship w my parents my whole life but I know for certain that they are in the wrong (at least for the most part) on the subject matter that is causing this tension. I have constantly found solace and acceptance on these issues from other friends and even some friend's parents but my own parents seem devoid of the ability to deal with this thing and I consider it to be vital to my health and well being. I have a plan to get through it which involves taking on lots of financial debt, the only other option is depending on my parents who I have no choice but to realize have been limiting and harming me my entire life without really acting like they care about that. ADVICE? I think financial debt is more than worth it at this point