what i found after looking through each of my relays individually was:

Good relays

relay.current.fyi (free, no bots)

relay.nostrplebs.com (free, no bots)

relay.mostr.pub (free, AP bridge)

relay.orangepill.dev (paid, no bots)

nostr.wine (paid, no bots)

relay.orangepill.dev (paid, no bots)

nostr.wine (paid, no bots)

Okay relays

nos.lol (free, some bots)

relay.nostr.band (free, some bots)

relay.nostrich.land (free, some bots)

Bad relays

relay.damus.io (free, all bots)

relay.snort.social (free, unresponsive)

offchain.pub (free, many bots)

relay.current.fyi (free, many bots)

brb.io (free, slow, many bots)

nostr.milou.lol (paid, unresponsive)

eden.nostr.land (paid, unresponsive)