Ha ha, turns out I'm not the only one! I'm not running a Nostr relay, but that feeling of “nobody sees the problems, but when something goes wrong, it's all on me” is all too familiar when maintaining Yachts. The old system was buggy as hell. Now I use the Explorer Yacht from https://www.yachttrading.com/yachts/explorer-yachts-for-sale/—way more stable. Sure, I still have to tinker sometimes, but fixing it on deck while listening to the waves? Suddenly, all that hassle feels worth it.