Countries have the right to decide which other countries they want to align with. Ukraine, Lithuania, Estonia, Latvia and others all fled the warm embrace of Russia as fast as rhey possibly could.
As sovereign countries they can join any alliances they like. If you want them to join yours, you win them by being nice.
Russia, in seeing countries all want to join NATO is reaping the results of it's own policies over the past decades.
If you support people being free, it's simple. Russia INVADED. After promising not to.
Once war starts, it gets messy. There are no angels in a war, and you are always choosing to side with one or the other. Trying bto sit out is to side with the strongest. Sometimes you have no choice - the West couldn't help Tibet when China invaded, but Ukraine, we can. The supply lines work, the logistics work, we can help.
WRT Ukraine, we can help Ukraine or we can accept a Russian win for aggression. Only you can know where your consience lies.
Me, I've sent money. I'd have hosted a refugee family as well, but my boat only has one bedroom.