Ah. nostr:npub1qfkcklnmes45z75y7y8dkud5yll8vp5eq5ysk9rmgqdxeasv8unsrfj6kq I misread what you said as "I think women bring loads of soft power into any intrasexual relationship, so equilibrium is only achieved when they hold -US- back a bit." Which is not what you said; sorry.

nostr:npub1m8d6pcrjhke48hasqgx7zkgjdt68u60px04frw753697mcmnyr3q365d6q I was calling that broken because I don't believe love, or a healthy relationship of any kind, should center around power dynamics, manipulation, and restraint of the other person.

Stella, reviewing this, I don't think I actually understand what you mean by soft power here.