I think most men are mating assortatively by intelligence without realizing it. They just think "we get along well", "we share interests/hobbies", "we vibe", "she's fun to hang out with", "she's a good conversationalist", "I like the witty banter", "she gets my sense of humor", "she's a good friend", etc.
They don't realize that these are all proof of her having a similar level of intelligence.
Exactly, you Take the words right from my mouth👍
I'm used to this effect. 😁
Men tell me that they don't care about female intelligence, but you rarely see unusually intelligent men keeping dumb women around for long. Not even as a friend. They just run out of things to talk about and get bored and tired of having to explain their humor.
At the latest, when they want to marry and have kids, she gets the boot. Smart men want smart kids, they want someone to talk to, and they aren't going to let some dimwit have direct access to their bank account or their Bitcoin wallet.
What men care about less, or not at all, is credentialism or career. That is, at best, a class signal or a sign of intelligence.
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To the advantages you mentioned about a smart woman, I must add that she performs better in difficult life situations. A smart and strong companion is very useful we face challenging situations. A smart and strong woman is truly a blessing.
Yes, this is true, but these advantages are all things that make her more valuable as a long-term companion, not things that make her more physically attractive.
I think a lot of older, intelligent men eventually hit a bargaining stage, where they start talking themselves out of desiring an intelligent woman because there aren't enough to go around and they can be difficult to keep because the competition is so fierce.
They often sound sort of bitter and a bit mean, but I think they're being realistic.
Although, I know a few men at the 140+ level who would rather remain single, than stick their dick in stupid.
To each his own, I guess.
I actually know quite a few like that.
It sort of surprises me, as you wouldn't think men would care. A nut is a nut, right?
But men can be picky.
It seems that there are a lot of intelligent men around you. Intelligent men mostly prefer intelligent women (some of them prefer dumb chicks), while less intelligent men mostly are not attracted to intelligent women because they think they are not submissive enough.
I'm surrounded by men on the right-end, it's true.
I do know some wealthy not-so-intelligent men and they envy the other men their wives. There's a social stigma against dating anyone who seems like a bimbo, when you're in the upper-middle or lower-upper class.
There's also the problem with sons. Everyone wants at least one smart boy and smart mothers are how you usually acquire one.
We're at the age when the sons are leaving school and starting in the trades or at college and it's obvious who had which mom.
Although, it's probably not any less valuable to have smart daughters. You can share your interests with them more and they can get you smart son-in-laws.
Smart girls are daddy's girls.
that is weird! I thought there is no difference between boys and girls in the West. I mean, for a company owner, the gender of the child does not matter, it is enough that he or she is capable and competent enough.
son and daughter
It matters because of the child's own interests. Girls in the West are emancipated enough to admit that they don't actually enjoy dads' line of work.
What girls often do is start out in dad's specialty, meet a man from that specialty, and then her husband takes over the management and she can switch to part-time or just sit on the board. I see that a lot.
Has nothing to do with competence.
Oh, I see.
This is actually a different argument than saying "more intelligence is inherently better". I think that's something most women would say about men, but it doesn't really work the other way around.
For men, the correlary would probably be partner count. Women tend to want a man of similar or slightly-higher partner count. So, it's a compatibility factor, rather than an absolute good.
An absolute good for men would be income. More money is usually better.
An absolute good for women would be beauty. More beauty is usually better.
You have to go back to Aristotel's lesson on the male and female virtues and the lesser versus the greater.
What I've found fascinating is that although most men don't think "more intelligence is better", female intelligence is not inherently unattractive.
If anything, some relatively unintelligent men covet highly intelligent women as potential wives. Perhaps some instinctive urge to improve their gene pool, or some socio-economic ambition. There's definitely more competition for intelligent women than unintelligent ones, and they tend to be more selective, so there's a bit of a trophy-effect to snagging one.
