We have art, philosophy, geographiy, history, community, theology, science, mathematics, music, video games, sports, and a greater access to each other & information than ever before and men still prefer medieval war-making and beating each other about the heads with proverbial clubs like cave men, and it is exasperating.
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War is toxic masculinity at the very core. The misunderstanding that masculinity is somehow wrapped up in one’s ability to exert force or yield violence is bonkers!!!!
If it didn't draw the ladies, men wouldn't do it.
Nearly everything irrational men do is a gambit to get laid, or a hedge against death.
Haven’t men being doing bang up job in all the categories you listed for over a millennia? War is just another. Some justified, some greed, some pride and some just cruel.