I appreciate that you are taking the time to argue with a pedophile who advocates for treat children like objects in certain circumstances. I think it's very confident of you, and I am interested in your perspective.

Yes, there's homeschool, private school, and it is also possible to take one's kids to a different public school. I know that many parents care quite a bit about their kids education, to the point where they will move to a different school district if they think it will mean their kids get a better education.

In this court case, the parents sent messages to the school ahead of time requsting them not to provide mental health treatment without approval, they were willing to sue the school, and yes, they almost certainly withdrew their kid from the school. Because of cases like these, how many other transphobic parents chose not to send their kids to public schools in the first place?

You say that the policy is sustainable and that the child's autonomy is what's most important, but in this case it seems pretty clear to me that it wasn't. There were numerous information leaks, including one of the teachers snitching completely. You say that the school is just respecting a student with abusive parents, and that the parents are already not giving their kid any leway, but the end result is that the student ends up with more supervision less progressive teachers. If the goal was to increase the kid's autonomy, then trying to provide it by exploiting the parents' trust seems like it had the opposite effect. If you don't consider that to be "less leway" then I'm curious to hear what term you'd use.

If the hope is that the parents will be total pushovers then I think the school shouldn't have been so afraid to rub it into the parents' faces that they were using different pronouns with the kid. If the kid agrees to the whole scenario then that's what I would have done in the school's shoes. It's not snitching if the kid knows the parents will find out and chooses to ask for it anyway.