yeah, i can't use your chat app with my nostr.wine relay that i pay for because it requires NIP-42 (just like my relay does, when i set the config that way, i just made a bypass for IPs due to the fact i use it on a VPN and it can filter for that)

well, not that i have any chat partners that use nostr.wine but if i did, i would know that our chat metadata wasn't leaking

you really need to think about that, it's really starting to grind my gears how nostr client devs are so bleeding oblivious to the privacy implications

are you TRYING to leak all our comms metadata to the spooks or what?