It doesn't go both ways.

For instance, if a female wants someone to provide for her, a man and society isn't automatically going to label her a gold digger.

Her actions would.

A female that wants a man to provide for her only becomes a gold digger when she makes the choice, through actions, to go from guy to guy, digging.

On the other hand, if I say my type isnt women who weigh more than me, 99.9% of earth will label me as a body shamer.