as for dating - i enjoyed being physically close with a girl ( whether fucking or making out or just any kind of physical contact, really ) - but i did not enjoy going out together. ultimately for me going out together is a bigger burden than being physical is a pleasure. because i can replicate most of the pleasure of being physical with porn without the hassle of "partying" and "having fun"

i did enjoy throwing parties myself at my own place, but NOT when my GF was there, because she would get drunk / high and start trying to make out with all of my friends ... i mean to be fair she also offered her BFF to me on multiple occasions, but it wasn't something i was looking for ...

also my friends had this friend who had a similar personality to my pops and would just do all sorts of nasty shit but my stoner friends were too dumb to drop him and after i banned him from coming to my house they would open the door for him so he can sneak in so ultimately i just dropped all of my friends and now i live the shitposter lyfe ...

i was somewhat antisocial as a kid - then i became almost normal in my weed / alcohol / cocaine / steroids years - and then when i quit all those things i swung hard to being really anti-social as i am now to where i speak to nobody at all ( except anonymously online )